As far as speed goes there is no “normal”. It is just personal preference. If your emphasis is fuel economy and minimal noise and stress the slower the better. If you care about time as well the faster you go. As you get up to a semi-plane the boat gets more efficient in terms of speed vs fuel consumption (i.e, a 10% increase in speed results in less than a 10% increase in fuel consumption). Above about 12 knots we get pretty close to 2mpg at any speed. So, for us, if we need to go above 9 knots or so we typically run all the way up to 15 knots. When going from 9 to 12 knots the fuel consumption drops more than the speed gained. The bow also sits high with the stern in a hole at those speeds. It does usually make sense to run in that range. If we don’t need to travel far we will run as slow as 6 knots if time allows. Extremely quiet and pleasurable st that speed but it takes a long time to get anywhere.
The Volvo Penta engineer at the Maple Bay Cruise this year recommended to run WOT now and then for up to 10% of the time to check for proper operation (temperature, oil pressure, and WOT rpm). He said a continuous cruise speed of 85% was recommended. Our preferred cruise is 3500 (a bit over 85% but it just seems to like it better) and he said it was totally fine. The operators manual just states that fuel economy may be reduced at more than 90% of WOT.
The temperatures you state are entirely normal. At 3500 we are at about 185 F and 85 psi. At WOT (4000 rpm) we are at about 190 F and 90 psi. This is all only relevant to a R27 with a Volvo D3-200.
Curt